Left On The Shelf

I live in a place where i see people getting together....falling in love... falling out of love.....falling in love again or not. It's such a pity for couples to break up because getting together is not easy in the first place. Some say, but i think otherwise. As much as we should try our best to work things out, what lies ahead is always more important than the past. What will keep you together rather than what had brought you together. There really can be a million reasons to get together and a million reasons to break up for every couple out there. When something happens, it can't be a for few sole reasons. But there is always a few standard and simple ways of explaining things.

People simply have different expectations and different beliefs. They are the real roots of 'love', like how the big strong trees hide their deep roots underground. They govern our decisions and what we see is only superficial.

What do you expect in a relationship? Security, compatibility, intimacy or what not. Of course there are no right or wrong answers. Do you believe that in the end love conquers all? Probably yes if both are willing and have deep faith in love and their relationship. But if anyone doesn''t think so, probably not. Sounds simple. All you need is belief and faith in each other. But changing beliefs is really harder than almost anything else. That's probably why people choose their partners based on expectations and beliefs...rather than the other way round.

Then again, that creates a lot of frustrations and mismatching. It's like listing down a set of criteria and hoping to find a product in the market that meets the requirements. There is a plethora of products out there but locating the ideal one may not be that easy. Soooooo many products out there and you can't find one for yourself? Really...we're just choosy. The one we desire may not available in our country nor exist to date/future . Too expensive. Too cheap. Packaging not nice lar. Too bulky. Too tiny. Too much. Too little. So hot.. sold off liaoz! Out of stock! .... but still a lot of others left of the shelves...Buy? Don't buy? Other people buy liao no more how? Beware!! cos we all have expiry dates! and there is always hard competition with the new products! What happens then? Just try to find the best match lo...Hahaz...you know when you go to a sale and end up buying things you don't need? That's when you get into trouble.

Love could never be quite well explained despite generations of love. Maybe explicit spoils the beauty... or maybe its the mystery that everybody loves. To me, love is like a naughty boy who likes to creep up on people unprepared, unpredictably and indiscriminatingly. He is really something beyond control and should never be judged as much as people often like to. A relationship is different because it is a decision to commit and let love grow.